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145 26 jun

Differences between boys and girls

Of course the sex of your child doesn’t determine who your child is, what they have a talent for and what they enjoy, but boys and girls do often develop differently. Scientific research about this subject will often be about the average, with large overlaps between boys and girls, but from when they’re three years old you’ll start to notice clear differences.

Running and horsing around

Boys are often more physical. They want to run, play fight, move, horse around and they have a preference for gross motor play. They enjoy unknown toys and learn by doing, feeling and experiencing. Because they’re assertive and curious, they’ll often showcase riskier play, without always thinking of the consequences.


Girls don’t play as many rough games, play house more often as a toddler and prefer fine motor play. They like toys they know and they like playing in the vicinity of an employee. Girls are more conscientious and are better at following instructions, because they can put a picture to the words they’re hearing. They’re bit more verbally apt and have a pretty good vocabulary early on.

Individual needs

The above doesn’t apply to every boy and girl. Their personality (character, talents, preferences) plays a large role as well. Our employees know about development and preference behaviour so they can guide them properly and suggest suitable activities. They always look at the individual needs of a child and keep in mind the different sex and personalities. Emotional security is our priority, because it’s the foundation for being well and the healthy development for boys and girls.

Doing vs. talking

Boys often develop language skills a little later than girls. They find it difficult to put their feelings into words. When boys are infant/toddler age they often play next to each other, whereas girls are often already playing together. 


Boys and girls develop differently. Seven tips…

  • Girls use more words than boys – boys are often doers. Although girls are not just talkers, they become doers when someone needs help.
  • Make space for very physical play and movement for boys (gross motor skills). Girls often like playing with small objects (fine motor skills).
  • What can you do? Touch boys more firmly, their sensory nerves are less superficially located than girls’. Horsing around is important for girls too; this develops their gross motor skills and helps them with establishing boundaries.
  • Boys and girls like to imitate. Girls are more focussed on imitating other people’s behaviour. Boys focus on action, like driving.
  • Give boys, and especially girls, space to make non-damaging mistakes that they can learn from. That way they can start to evaluate their own behaviour. Girls want to be liked by everyone – but you can’t always please everyone and making mistakes is part of life. Boys need to make mistakes in order to learn.
  • Girls have a great urge to collect things. Hand them a basket when they’re outside and off they go.
  • Boys need much more time to reset or to stop what they’re doing. Girls are generally better at this, because they like to comply.
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Centre manager Amsterdam Herengracht
Kinderdagverblijf kindergarden KDV amsterdam centrum Derske